the experience of the wedding ceremony

出国之前在一个城市本科硕士读过7年,在另一个城市又工作了3年。但是不管在哪,总觉得自己是飘着的过客,没有归属感。现在慢慢觉得,开始喜欢起现在这个地方。

D的婚礼也许触动了我的这种心态变化。看到那些客人很真诚的祝福他们的人生,看到他们婚礼的那种紧张、激动和甜蜜,就觉得很感动。这个地方让人更好的理解了什么是真正的民主。民主不是少数人服从多数人,而是多数人尊重少数人的选择和生活方式,保护少数人的权益。

I have studied in one city for 7 years and have worked in another city for 3 years in China. However, I always felt that I was a stray bird flying between universities. From now on, I start to show my affinity for this land and feel a connection between me and it.

I believe that D’s wedding contribute a lot to my change. The guests who attended the wedding ceremony were so nice and open-minded. They blessed the new couple sencerely and warmly. It is here and now that I understand the statement: “The democracy is not concerning that the minority have to follow the majo ……

something sunny

D and his partner came to office today and asked me to talk in the hallway. Before I asked why he act so mystically, D told me that they would get merried in two weeks and invited me to their wedding ceremony.

This will be the third wedding ceremony which I attened here. The first two were warm and decent, and I believe this one will be the same as others. Best wishes.

break-up II

There are five stages in the Kübler-Ross model: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and accept.

The whole process of dealing with break-up for me started from last October. I denied the situation that he was not that into me; I felt angry when he reneged; I bargained with him for having a trip here to see if the relationship could work out or not. However, He did not wanna do anything for the relationship. I felt depressed but finally accepted the situation and started to move on.

I offered him my help if he need it in future and will try to treat him as a friend. At least, it is very meaningful experience for me.

about D

D is from the other continent. We are dealing with the same project and have lunch together mostly. I never thought that D was special until he came to tell me about that. However, if I looked back carefully I could trace some unique characters on him such as he was very considerable and sensitive. I applaud him for his courage and happy life which he deserve.
I shared some secrets with him today and the conversation released me a lot from my pressure and helped me a lot for dealing with the puzzle. He kindly encourage me in holding hope for the happy life in future. However, he didn’t has an optimistic view of my current relationship.
I shared this story to ZC tonight. He didn’t respond but tried to change the subject. However, he did show his opinion by an obvious way that he didn’t wanna discuss nor has a clear mind about the future. I am trying to grow up but he would rather stay where he is. I guess maybe D and other friends’ opinion are right, but …

有些人

有些人有着负面的人格,显达时矫情,挫折时祥林嫂。
有些人觉得来自别人的关爱和帮助是理所当然的。
敬而远之是最佳的处理方式。

周遭

认识的两个女生,她们变成单亲母亲。
两个我都见过,一个说自己个性和我很像,一个糊里糊涂做了很久的网友。

认识的一个女生,在毕业时候急性白血病去世。
虽然同学三年,但是连名字和人都对不上。

认识的一个女生,据说跳楼了。
那是十五年前的同学了吧,样子还记得。

知道的一个师姐,在博士论文提交以后自杀。
自杀以后才知道,原来上学路上经常打照面的那个人就是她。

之前的一个师姐,遭遇车祸,上一次知道消息的时候据说有成为植物人的可能。
还算比较熟吧,虽然毕业以后再无联系。

说来好像都是女生的事情。
仔细想想,好像除了很久以前一个要好的男生溺亡,一个做过同座的男生离婚,其他人都还好吧?
可能各有各的处境,但是都在过各自的生活。
那些不联系的朋友,就默认他们都是幸福的吧。

题目叫周遭,但是前面这些好像和周遭并无关系。
自己像是住在琥珀里面的蚂蚁,周遭是从来没 ……

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