重度拖延症患者的夏日宣言

Today, I talked with W about the graduation at dinner time.

I have been feeling a lot of pressure in these days. However, I will try to deal with the pressure instead of avoiding thinking about it. I should be more proactive than I used to be. In those days, I always postponed working hard on the problem untill the situation was out of control and hurt myself in an unavoid way.It is not only concerning career, but also life and love.

ABOUT WORK, what I should do are listed as follows:

to organize the materials about my previous two projects;

to write the outline and the review.

to read the abstract from the national conference in recent two years and to rank the proferssor who I am interested in by the meaning and potential of the projects.

to make a detailed plan about the 3rd project and to work more efficiently on it using my experience and research ability.

ABOUT personal life, what I should do are listed as follows:

to upgrad my driver lisence by more practice.

to obtain my diving lisence.

to do more workout and to go swimming on a regular basis.

to do volunteer.

ABOUT the relationship, what should�� I do?

I should not treat it by the way I treat my career. In another word, I should contribute to the relationship instead of pushing it. I should take it easy. The relationship is not only concerning the happy end, but also concerning the joyful trip itself. I should learn to open my heart, not only by offering my care and help, but also by expressing my dark side and weakness, which are still parts of me no matter if I like them or not…

As Ellen said, everything happened should have meaning. Actually the past wouldn’t be meaningful if it is not understood in a right way. The point is, I need try my best to make the past meaningful, which is, to learn where is my bottom line, my weakness, my capacity, my life goal and my real need.

今天跟W聊了一下毕业的事情。

其实还是觉得压力还挺大的。不过之前因为压力大而有些刻意去回避,现在打算订一些更加详实的计划,去推进这个事情。人还是应该努力在困难面前掌握主动权,想办法去解决问题,而不是被动回避无所作为,最后面临更加难以收拾的场面。

无论事业、生活、还是感情,莫不如此。

学业上,把基本做完的两个project整理成两章,把outline和综述部分写写。读一下近两年的大会会议报告,把值得去的组按喜好排个序。把接下来的第三个项目好好规划一下,凭这几年的经验和所学,用尽量少的时间把问题分析清楚。

生活上,这个月好好练一下车,把我的driving license升级一下。健身的事情该更加规律一些,争取早日练到160磅。跑步或者游泳也该捡一下。下个月打算去考一个Diving license。如果还有空闲时间,去做一下志愿者的活动。

感情上,之前把这方面以对待事业的态度来处理,现在看是用力过猛,导致自己绷得太紧而缺乏张力。

对两个人的将来,要学着更加从容自如,而不是急于得到一个所谓的完美结局。

对于敞开内心这件事,要不仅做到倾听,帮助对方解决麻烦和化解压力,还要学会表达,纾解自身。否则感情难免变成单行线,让对方和自己无所适从。

Ellen说,发生的事情,一定是有意义的。如果我们不能去消化吸收它,它就没有意义。如果因为这种经历,更多地了解了自己的底线、自己的弱点、自己的优点、自己的人生目标、自己的真正需要,那么这件事,就是有意义的。

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